Are you seeking the Truth? Do you suspect that your spouse may be cheating? Deception can be hard to tell, what do you ask, how can you know for sure what is the truth or what is a lie? Dr. Rovner of polygraph-west has all the answers you may be looking for in fidelity testing.
According to an article at truthaboutdeception.com, “Mistakes People Make When Trying to Detect Deception”
“Detecting deception by a romantic partner or spouse is difficult. And people often do things to make the task more complicated.
Specifically, when trying to determine if the truth is being told, people sometimes ask probing questions.
Questions such as:
- Are you sure?
- How did that happen?
Asking “probing” questions is not as useful as people think. In fact, asking such questions actually makes it more difficult to determine if the truth is being told.
Every study on this this topic shows the same results: asking probing questions hinders a person’s judgment. Asking probing questions generally leads people to assume that someone, who might be lying, is telling the truth.
How and why does this happen?
Two explanations have been offered.
First, asking probing questions often helps the person who might be lying – it gives them feedback (see, Stiff and Miller). Asking such questions only tips one’s hand – it reveals that you are suspicious. And if a husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend is actually lying, now they can adjust their behavior to appear more honest (also, see catch a cheater). When it comes to detecting deception, asking probing questions helps liars more than it helps those seeking the truth.
Second, asking questions makes matters worse because it also has an impact on a person’s ability to make decisions. People place too much faith on their ability to detect deception, especially when asking probing questions.”
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